Children expose us for who we are and what we know. They also expose us for who we’re not and what we don’t know.
We all know that parenting is a process that leads to maturity, but what we don’t always realize is that the children aren’t the only ones maturing. Because middle-years children are grappling with right and wrong in new ways, parents are forced to evaluate their own moral code.
When children repeatedly test parents’ boundaries, it develops patience and conviction in the parents. Parents have to gain verbal self-control because effective parenting cannot be explosive, critical, or sarcastic. Our children reveal the weaknesses of our character and the areas in which we need to mature.
Our moral growth as parent is hardly an option. Every major moral mandate – love, mercy, grace, justice, humility, forgiveness, restoration, compassion, patience, and self-control – is challenged in parenting, often daily!
Parenting provides the ideal circumstance in which we can learn, for no one else in the world will be as forgiving of our shortcomings as our own children.
Source: On Becoming Preteen Wise by Gary Ezzo